Ashleee Karen

Made it 4 months celibate…now what??

Anticipating a New Years Eve Disaster

Posted by ashleeekaren on December 31, 2010

New Years Eve.  A time for reflection.  A time for celebration.  A time for…disaster?

My friend Sharon decided to have a party this year, as last years NYE was a bit boring.  She sent the evite out a few weeks ago.  I didn’t bother to look at the invite list and simply replied “yes”.  Sharon is one of my best friends and it was a given that I would be going to this party, since everyone I know is going to be there too.

Sharon is also friends with Martin.  Martin of the “I’m still in love with you” nonsense.  She invited him.  What was I supposed to say?  She felt awkward about not inviting him even though she knows everything that’s been going on between Martin and I.  So I said I would deal with it.

THEN I find out that the dude I made out with in the bathroom at Halloween is ALSO coming to the party.  And the Irish guy i had a crush on awhile back may also show up.

I get a text from Martin (although I did tell him I needed my space awhile back) telling me he’s picking up some stuff for the party and would I like anything.  I say no.  Then he asks if it’s going to be awkward if he shows up. I tell him no, it’s fine, he should come because I know Sharon wants him to.

SO, since Bathroom Makeout Guy is going to be there and he has a total hard on for me, I can just imagine myself trying to dodge his advances to preserve Martin’s feelings.  And I can just imagine how completely awkward it’s going to be when Irish Guy shows up and my friend’s husband starts trying to set us up (he’s hell bent on making it happen).

Thank goodness I don’t have to deal with GT since he’s with his daughter and in a very far away city.  But I still think I have my hands full. I should probably just drink myself ridiculous and hide in a closet or something…


10 Responses to “Anticipating a New Years Eve Disaster”

  1. Phoenix said

    LOL this sounds funny!

  2. The Quest For 50 said

    Haha do you need me to come wing you? I’ll be making the rounds in our hometown…

  3. Racer X said

    Haha…sounds like a lot of drama for Ashleee tonight.

    If you get too overwhelmed and want to chill out, you can come over and join me, Mandy and Vassy in my imaginary world. See my my blog. The only thing better than a New Year’s Eve threesome would be a New year’s Eve foursome.

    Or if you like I could provide you with some private loving to help you escape all the boy drama in your life. Who do have now? Martin, Bathroom Make-Out Guy, and some Irish guy? So many choices!

    Loving with Racer X is simple and straightfoward: lots of hot sex and little drama. The woman always feels loved and satisfied afterward. Then she is better able to handle multiple guy drama.

  4. Racer X said

    What can I say? I like to be generous. After all, it is better to give than to receive.

    • Just read your post – you are very good at the erotica!

      • Racer X said


        I was thinking today about how you have being saying recently that you actually have not felt that horny recently (your vib is still in its box, etc.) So in a certain strange way, you are actually more celibate now than you were when you first started your project and filled with desires and frustrations. Even though you may technically ended the project, I think in some keys ways you are still living and exploring the whole celibacy thing. Celibacy is really a state of mind more so than a technical definition of whether or not a penis has entered your vagina. Of course abstaining from sex is still an important part of that, but as you know that is not an easy thing to do. I think celibacy is more about trying to achieve a sense of wholeness and integrity in our lives when it comes to sexual activity. Abstaining from sex can help us learn and achieve that; but celibacy is still more than simply abstaining.

      • Mental celibacy – I like that. Even in the 4 short months during the project, I did feel like I learned a lot and most of that I attribute to blogging. Thoughts on a screen start back at you long after you’ve forgotten you’ve written them… It was about accountability. I have been celibate longer than that previously (the most recent being 6 months and about a decade ago I went a whole year without sex)

        The physical part of the celibacy project with my desire and urges…I attribute that to biology. I still want to write that post about ovulation and horniness. And you know there’s that saying that women hit their sexual peak in their 30’s… My theory is that this “sexual peak” phenomenon is attributed to biology and circumstance.

        Biology – our bodies know that our eggs are going to get pretty crappy soon so it amps up the hormones to make us want to have sex more thereby increasing the likelihood of procreation.

        Circumstance – by the time you hit your 30’s many women are more in touch with the sexuality in a mental way – realizing it’s ok to want to have sex. They may be less inhibited which often leads to better sex…

        Anyway, none of this is rooted in studies of any type – it’s just my wacky theory.

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